Common Coaching Areas of Focus
White Privilege/White Supremacy Culture/Cultural Change
Body Connection/Erotic Power/Sexual Healing
Living a Fulfilling Life
Setting Boundaries and Recovering from Experiences with Narcissism and Passive Aggression
Body Connection/Erotic Power/Sexual Healing
Living a Fulfilling Life
Setting Boundaries and Recovering from Experiences with Narcissism and Passive Aggression
White Privilege/White Supremacy Culture/Cultural Change
Are you a white person or organization who is committed to doing your work to be an effective ally for racial equity? Maybe you've taken a training that opened your eyes and fired you up, and you're not sure where to go next. Maybe you need support to process some uncomfortable feelings. Maybe you want to get more involved in activism, but you're worried that you don't know enough. Maybe you've been "called out" for something a friend told you was inappropriate or hurtful, and you want to own your actions and learn more, but you're not sure how to without being attacked or judged.
I love supporting people committed to this journey, and this is an excellent fit for the coaching model! You know what you want, but you're not sure how to get there. You need encouragement and understanding along with accountability. You can see real growth and movement when you put in the work.
Are you a white person or organization who is committed to doing your work to be an effective ally for racial equity? Maybe you've taken a training that opened your eyes and fired you up, and you're not sure where to go next. Maybe you need support to process some uncomfortable feelings. Maybe you want to get more involved in activism, but you're worried that you don't know enough. Maybe you've been "called out" for something a friend told you was inappropriate or hurtful, and you want to own your actions and learn more, but you're not sure how to without being attacked or judged.
I love supporting people committed to this journey, and this is an excellent fit for the coaching model! You know what you want, but you're not sure how to get there. You need encouragement and understanding along with accountability. You can see real growth and movement when you put in the work.
Are you working on a project that aims to shift culture in a significant way? I can help you understand the invisible structure and characteristics of dominant culture, and learn what actually works to move public opinion. After I presented an overview of research on what really works to create social change for The Center for Documentary Studies, students said it changed not only the way they approached their documentary work, but their day jobs as well!
Body Connection/Erotic Power/Sexual Healing
Our culture encourages us to disconnect from, even reject, our bodies -- as part of religious faith, as the price of a rationalist scientism that privileges the intellect, as a protective response to trauma or sexual objectification -- the intersecting factors genuinely boggle my mind. In addition, U.S. culture provides an utterly bizarre mixture of messages about sex and sexuality. The U.S. is sex-obsessed and sex-phobic at the same time. The bright spot in this Dali-esque landscape is that you can stop beating yourself up for whatever hang-ups you personally have about sex or your body; you come by it honestly! The number and complexity of means that culture employs to keep you alienated from full presence in an embodied existence should be a clue that it must be very important.
Every one of us is different, and your personal story and history are particularly potent here. We do know that different cultural messages are designed for men and women, so depending on your gender identity or combination/evolution thereof, you may feel different forces more powerfully. Weaving together your personal experience and understanding of cultural scripts, we can build a coaching program that helps to bring you back to embodied awareness, self-acceptance, ethical physical bliss, sacred intimacy, and more.
Our culture encourages us to disconnect from, even reject, our bodies -- as part of religious faith, as the price of a rationalist scientism that privileges the intellect, as a protective response to trauma or sexual objectification -- the intersecting factors genuinely boggle my mind. In addition, U.S. culture provides an utterly bizarre mixture of messages about sex and sexuality. The U.S. is sex-obsessed and sex-phobic at the same time. The bright spot in this Dali-esque landscape is that you can stop beating yourself up for whatever hang-ups you personally have about sex or your body; you come by it honestly! The number and complexity of means that culture employs to keep you alienated from full presence in an embodied existence should be a clue that it must be very important.
Every one of us is different, and your personal story and history are particularly potent here. We do know that different cultural messages are designed for men and women, so depending on your gender identity or combination/evolution thereof, you may feel different forces more powerfully. Weaving together your personal experience and understanding of cultural scripts, we can build a coaching program that helps to bring you back to embodied awareness, self-acceptance, ethical physical bliss, sacred intimacy, and more.
Living a Fulfilling Life
Over the past several years I have seen people I love and admire confront deep disconnects in their lives between what they know they value and believe and what the culture says is possible. This might look like a niggling unease, or disillusionment and despair, or a determination to live differently even though you have no idea how that's possible. Here are just a few examples of how that has manifested:
Over the past several years I have seen people I love and admire confront deep disconnects in their lives between what they know they value and believe and what the culture says is possible. This might look like a niggling unease, or disillusionment and despair, or a determination to live differently even though you have no idea how that's possible. Here are just a few examples of how that has manifested:
- Coming to feel that your personal experience of nonprofit work or social work seems to keep you always busy but never quite making a real difference -- the growing worry that you're a cog in the wheel of keeping things the same instead of changing them
- Pondering the expectation that you should make a difference in your "free time" through volunteer work when you're exhausted
- Giving up on academia as a change agent after years of abuse and scraping by
- Feeling that the people you've allied yourself with are sounding more and more like the folks you thought you were opposing together, and not knowing how to start a conversation about it
Setting Boundaries and Recovering from Experiences with Narcissism and Passive Aggression
Our either/or culture can make some of us struggle with how to be a kind good-hearted person and also stand up for ourselves. Believe it or not, these things can coexist! In fact, Brene Brown says that the most compassionate people she has interviewed over her career are also the most boundaried, and that generosity cannot exist without boundaries! If this is something you struggle with, I can help you find some clarity about what feels good for you and practice expressing that confidently and positively to other people.
People who are recovering from wounding that involved narcissistic or passive aggressive communication styles can feel particularly challenged to get untangled. There are specific structures and strategies at play here (even if the person using them is not consciously aware of them) that can make you feel outraged and crazy at the same time. I am good at seeing below the surface to how manipulative communication systems operate, explaining it to others, and suggesting alternate responses. Many people find that practicing responding from this new awareness helps them regain clarity and calm, know when to end a relationship, and successfully manage necessary communication and relationships with people who use manipulative communication. It is amazing how understanding the way something works can keep it from stripping your power away from you!
Our either/or culture can make some of us struggle with how to be a kind good-hearted person and also stand up for ourselves. Believe it or not, these things can coexist! In fact, Brene Brown says that the most compassionate people she has interviewed over her career are also the most boundaried, and that generosity cannot exist without boundaries! If this is something you struggle with, I can help you find some clarity about what feels good for you and practice expressing that confidently and positively to other people.
People who are recovering from wounding that involved narcissistic or passive aggressive communication styles can feel particularly challenged to get untangled. There are specific structures and strategies at play here (even if the person using them is not consciously aware of them) that can make you feel outraged and crazy at the same time. I am good at seeing below the surface to how manipulative communication systems operate, explaining it to others, and suggesting alternate responses. Many people find that practicing responding from this new awareness helps them regain clarity and calm, know when to end a relationship, and successfully manage necessary communication and relationships with people who use manipulative communication. It is amazing how understanding the way something works can keep it from stripping your power away from you!